Saturday, June 24, 2006

A trip to Heaven and back



Beep... Beep… 3:45a.m my alarm rang. Getting up at that hour was definitely not my idea of beginning the weekend, but after my telecon, the previous night with the attendant at ST bus depot in Borivali, I knew that if I wanted to take the first bus at five I had to get up early.The telecon with the bus depot attendant and a conversation earlier in the day with a colleague who told me about talking to a postmaster over the phone at the postoffice to get her mail has left me wondering if the service levels of our government bodies had climbed up the ladder or was it just an impact of tele-communications.

I walk out of the building, with a kind of feeling I have had when I have gone to write an exam, where I am all prepared, and I know exactly the kinds of answers I won’t be able to solve. I sort of know what is expected of this journey, a boring long bus ride, meeting my father’s men, who will have nothing but sob stories about current scenario and some praise stories on Dad. Meeting the clueless Sarpanch who will ask me to pay the house tax and apologize for not sending the receipt.

As I ride to the bustop, the roads are empty and dirty with the collected rainwater, sky is pitch dark, and it is drizzling.It is not a very encouraging atmosphere to start a journey especially in the ST bus.The bus arrives in time and it is not very crowded,I get a window seat.As the bus moves towards Dadar,more and more people get in. A slightly elderly lady, dressed in a Mahrashtrian navari sits next to me. She seems to be going to her village.She keeps on fidgeting with her plastic bag full of clothes murmuring something to herself, finally it lands up on the shelf.Surprisingly the ST bus is quite comfortable.

As the sun rises and we hit Panvel,its beautiful outside.I am just fascinated watching the green mountains,the fields, the sky, the lakes under the bridges that I pass, cows bathing in the lakes, the birds chirping. Suddenly Mother Nature had boasted my mood, I am energized and all my depressing and negative thoughts about the trip are being thrown out of the window as we continue to move. To make the trip even more enjoyable I switch on the radio to listen to some music. Guess which song comes ‘ Chala jata hu, from Swades’ now the mood is totally set in, I too feel like Sharukh Khan returning to his village. Nostalgia fills in as I pass through Karnala, amantran at Wadgad Nakka, Shirdon and other places where we would always halt on our way to Nilaj.

Finally, I arrive at Kolad, its about 10 km from Nilaj, the place where the estate is. My father’s work associate lives at Kolad, next to the bus depot. He usually guides me and updates me about what happening so a visit to his house is a must. He lives in a typical Maharashtrian upper-class house. He owns some rice mills, has some construction material business, owns some land, and is well networked with the tehsil and other officials. His house is a typical village bungalow in which rooms are constructed from time to time based on need without any design or architectural element to it.

I wait for the man to come in the gloomy drawing room. He enters and tells me “ You came back to India”.I had visited the place almost a year back before I went to the US.There is nothing wrong in his question but his tone is un- welcoming, I want to get up and tell him, why you thought I would go away and you could just encroach my land.

I decide to get to the point and enquire about what has been happening. He casually remarks that there have been some parties who have been enquiring about buying the place but nothing has worked out so far .This is nothing new, I have heard this on every single trip of mine. There seems to be some development now. Apparently, they are building a dam near the estate; this is good news so the water problem at the estate can be solved by it. He gives me his new telephone no and tells me to inform him 2 days in advance before I come next time so that he can fix a meeting with tatye at the Tehsil to find out exactly about my property records. Unfortunately, it is a second Saturday so government offices are shut so cant visit them today.

Outside his house, I take a ride to the estate in this big rickshaw, which runs in the villages, with a seating for about eight passengers but usually the double sit. For 80 bucks, I get a ride to the estate all by myself. Its not a bad deal at all, since its 10km anyways. I feel like a king in that rickshaw. I start talking to the rickshaw guy and since I am hungry I ask him to stop at Mai Bhavani- a restaurant i have been visiting since I was a kid.

Mai Bhavani is a classy Maharashtrian Dhabba run by an old couple. It also has a temple with it. The Mai Bhavani interiors are changed it just seems like the Indian version of the Crocker Barrels and the country restaurants I have visited and liked in the US. The tables are made of bamboo sticks and painted green in colour and so are the chairs. The dinning area is covered with a bamboo round roof. There are loads of baskets filled with oil, kokam and other ayurvedic stuff on display for sale. On the side, there are three big jars of pickle. Since there is no one in the dinning hall I go in the kitchen a girl comes out I enquire for breakfast.

I invite the rickshaw driver to join me, who is a little shy and insists on not having anything as he has already finished breakfast at home, however settles for some chai. I am treated to some authentic Maharashtrian poha and kothmirvadi with lasun chatni and steaming hot chai. Over chai I chat with the rickshaw driver asking him about the train timings, to working hours of government offices on Saturday to the political champion Sunil A of Rashtravadi party who rules the region and how Shiv sena has lost its power here. When I tell him, I am going to the estate above Nilaj, he tells me that he has been there years ago to see the flower plantation and how amazed he was to see those flowers transported in an AC car.

I go inside to pay my bill. An old woman who seems to be the owner and chef comes out, I thank her for a good breakfast and tell her I like the way they have redone the place recollecting my earlier visits as a kid. When she learns, that I am Gautam Shah’s daughter, she is stunned and remembers him and tell me in chast Marathi, how papa called him mother, always came here for meals and at times even requested her for a head massage with their special oil.

The Rickshaw guy is ready to take me to the estate but I ask him to drop me at the village, as I want to go to the office. The Rickshaw guy is high-tech with a mobile phone. He gives me his mobile no and tells me I can call him anytime incase I need a drop.

I walk into a village, I look at the school. Years ago, I remember Papa bringing me to the school to distribute gifts to the village kids. It was an annual Diwali ritual. The village is definitely more developed now, less houses with mud more which concrete and some houses with two storeys. As I walk to the Panchayat office, a lady comes to enquire who I am, I tell her I need to meet the Panch and when I tell her I am Gautam shah`s daughter she suddenly shouts calling the Gram siphai saying Gautam sheth`s daughter has come.

Suddenly the people in the surrounding houses come outside, starring at me. Thankfully the Gram Sipahi comes soon and I get into office. He tells me the Panch is not in today and I ask him to show me my house records and get a little annoyed at him for not having changed it to my mothers name yet. He remembers everything about my case. He immediately removes the death certificate I had given him and requests me to write a letter once again. For some strange reason he thinks I am married and asks me “Tumche Mr ale nahi” He urges me to give the change in name letter again and thus dictates to me in Marathi, I haven’t written Marathi in ages, I feel no different from the hundreds of other villagers he must be dictating letters to. I tell him I am coming back next Saturday, he needs to ensure that the name is changed in records and I am given the new receipt.

I walk through the village with people coming out giving me very curious glances. I am not really in a mood to talk to anyone, but I have to since I cant figure out the way. I ask an old lady, she immediately calls for a man to assist me to the plot. In the time that I am waiting for the man to arrive, she enquires how my mother is, and remembers seeing me as a kid. More bodies and eyes stare at me. I realize the power of my father’s name. My escort, a middle aged man in shorts arrives, and takes me to the estate, showing me the new dam that is being built and the straight road that Papa had built upto the estate. As I walk up, I am in heaven. Its amazingly green, On one side there just mountains on the other 3 sides small ponds. It is heaven. I thank the guy for showing me the place and tell him I will sit here for a while so he can leave.

When I look at the house papa has built, a place where he had wanted to live once I had finished graduation it was devastating. The house was like khandar, it had not been in any great shape earlier too, but it had got worst now. The windows and doors had also dissapeared. I wondered why Papa had chosen this plot to build the house one look around and I got the answer. You couldn’t ask for a better view, just beautiful green mountains on all sides and small pond on one side.

The house reminded me of the state of some forts and palaces today, which were flourishing kingdoms at one point of time. This was Papa’s little kingdom, whenever I came with him it was always buzzing with people, even when the house was not built there was a bamboo canopy where we would sit. It was right here, many years ago that the entire village had a festive feast, it was right here that the adivasi workers at the estate showed Papa their gratitude by putting up a special dance performance for us. It was here in the open under the tree that the papa had cooked the most amazing khicdhi on a makeshift brick stove. It was here that 100 kids from my school had come for a nature trail and papa had fondly cooked for them. It was right under this tree, that we had got papas special friend Bochakhaju- the Monkey drunk with a little beer and watched his acrobatics. It was right here that papa had cooked and entertained his countless guests. Today there was not a single soul here, it was silent and beautiful, and all these things were history now.

On various instances I had wondered why on the earth did Papa have to buy land here. As I walked through the estate I got the answer. Probably for the first time, after Papa passed away I realized that I had inherited an asset and not a liability .Its amazing how age and experience can change the way you look at things. I think in my initial visits, I was more occupied thinking about land and looking after it with its complexities as a problem, thus totally ignoring the actual problem and addressing it with solutions and continuing to keep in on the backburner.

On my way back I trekked down the pukka road across the three villages to reach the highway and waved out to one of the big rickshaws on the road to go to Kolad. This was interesting ride with twelve adults and 4 children squeezing in the 8 seater rickshaw. I hoped to see a Volvo coming from Mahableshwar or Goa so that I could make my trip back in the ac. So for 110 ruppes I got a AC ride home in the Volvo. In a couple of hours I was back to hustle bustle and traffic of Mumbai after my short rendezvous with Heaven giving me loads of happiness

An inspiring conversation with a friend, a focused approach, a little bit of age and experience, earned me a trip to Heaven this Saturday.

Monday, June 19, 2006

Even-out evenings in Bombay


On Sunday evening as I dived into dinner at new eatery in town, talking about places to visit closer to work and otherwise my friend remarked “There is nothing much to do in the evenings in Bombay”. On Monday night when I left work, that statement suddenly came back to me. Pondering over the statement through out my train ride amidst finishing my book I thought about a couple of things that one could do in Mumbai on weeknights post work. Have listed them down would be great to add to the list so please contribute

Things where you don’t need to spend the mula
Mumbai has many bays
You can take a walk down
worli sea face .
Chowpatty beach
Nariman Point skyline
Dadar beach
Gateway of India
Port Garden- Ballard Pier
TIFR garden- Although u need some connection to get in there
Walk through the by lanes of Fort

Bookstores

This could be another interesting place to catch up on all the magazines & books..Most bookstores are open till 9. My recommendations are
Crossword at Kemps Corner- This is a real treat its probably the biggest book store in Mumbai. You can also unwind at the Moshes Café . Crosswords at Inorbit, Shivaji Park, Bandra are good hangouts to
Oxford book store- Oxford doesn’t have a wide choice of books but the chai and muffin at the cha bar are defi worth a visit

Coffee shops

Coffee culture is definitely in. There is nothing like unwinding with a nice book at any of the coffee shops. But some coffee bars become interesting because of kind of people you get to see there in turn the live entertainment that you get to watch
Barista – I have always preferred the Barista to the Coffee Day. Barista next to Regal is interesting as u can end up meeting a lot of backpackers, travelers and if you get the window seat it can be full entertainment watching the street kids talking to the firangs. Barista at Bandstand is nice with the view of the sea. The Shivaji Park Barista is also very relaxing
Of course the Bombay Baking company at the Marriot gets my vote. They serve some very good chai, coffee and muffins and you can pick up books and magazines to catch up on your reading. They close at 10 pm, but they are open 24 hours on Monday, when the coffee shop is closed
Prithvi café is also an interesting place to hangout; you just sit under a tree sipping irish coffee.
Café which has a similar ambience like Prithvi, tucked away inside Famous studio. Although they have some art displays there, the café is handled by Cafe Coffee Day so no great surprises on food and coffee

Music

Music is any form is usually entertaining. Karoake has become very popular. Some of the places where you defi get to watch some good Karoke action
Not Just Jazz By the Bay – They have a band playing or Karoke almost every day post 10
Starters & More & Soul Fry- There are others joinng in too like Zenzi, Bohemia etc
Mondegar and Leopold are other great hangouts. Mondegar has a juke box whereas at Leopold there is music only upstairs with a DJ playing some hits.



Movie screenings/ Plays / exhibitions

If you are some one who likes to watch offbeat cinemas then you should watch out for the movie screenings by British Council, Alliance France, National Film Divison, worli etc. Most of these screenings are free. .You can find them listed in Time-Out. It’s a good magazine to subscribe too. Most plays are screened on weekends but Prithvi theatre and NCPA sometimes do have screenings on weekdays. Also throughout the year there a tons of exhibitions of various kinds that you can go and check out


Hobby classes/ volunteer work/ Vocational course

Another interesting thing to do is take up a class on something novel. Something like
Kickboxing
Karate/Judo
Yoga
Salsa Class
Basic chopping and cooking class
Volunteer to teach at a night school ( I have been trying to find an NGO, where I can do this, but no luck so far, if any of you know anything like this please let me know)
Volunteer a couple of hours at an old age home (There is nothing like bringing happiness for a few minutes in someone’s life)
An Evening course to sharpen your skills, Velingar, NMIMS a lot of institutes offer a variety of courses

Tuesday, June 13, 2006

Case History- DADAJI



One Sunday evening, I accompanied Dadaji to the newly opened Positive Health Clinic, a homeopathic treatment center in my locality. What’s interesting about going to a homeopathic clinic is that, they prescribe you medicines according to the way you behave, your likes dislikes etc, thus as Dadaji gave his so called case history to the doctor, glimpses of his life just came in front of me and I decided to pen them down

Dadaji, Dada, Granpa these are probably the only words by which I refer my Dadaji. Dadaji is 83 years old but he still is one of those fortunate men who can ignite the hearts of women in any age group not only by his appearance but also his witty talks. This has been a constant phenomenon in his life, even before I was born.

It all probably began in the 20`s when Dadaji a, fair handsome young man hailing from Uttar Pradesh landed in Mumbai. He had stayed at various places from Tehri, to Agra to Mathura to complete his education, finally landing in Mumbai to make his dreams, or to just get out of the big family in Haldwani, Nainital. Granpa a son of a very well-known lawyer Brijbhushan Das, never really went to school. Teachers would come home to teach him.

W hen he arrived to Mumbai and slept outside in a chawl of his uncle’s house, women both young girls, ladies always had an eye on him and gossip letters were churned out to his mother stating that all the girls are behind him so its better to get him married. Finally an alliance was sought out and my grandmother (Ashru) a daughter of one of wealthiest gold merchants of Jhaver bazzar was chosen as a match. The wedding was supposedly very elaborate although it was held in the porch of the building, but the barattis were given stay at the Sea Green hotel which was a big thing in those days.

Dadaji has always had a very western approach or thinking in his life. He doesn’t believe in God, never agreed of old customs and most of all he liked to treat girls and boys equally (that’s probably the reason why his daughter and granddaughters are what they are today). He worked with companies like Marshal & Sons to APE Bellis, traveled the world on work from the time when such voyages could be undertaken only by ships. Dadaji is a total fitness freak, totally into making health food, walking, although his knees don’t allow him to walk to much now.


As a child I still remember when Dadaji would come to drop me to school or even when he would be a guest at any of social gatherings in college, work or outside I have been bombarded with compliments like, “Your Dadaji is so cute.. Your Dadaji is very handsome and smart”. To get compliments at the age of 80 plus is definitely something

Dadaji and me share a very special bond, from the time I could remember. When I was probably 3 years old and was living in Haldwani with parents, it was he who on one of his trips, had insisted my father on sending me to Mumbai for a better education, assuring him that he and Dadi would look after me till, papa could wind of and come to Mumbai.

I still remember walking with Dadaji every evening to the Taj cake shop; to buy his brown bread and then visiting the general store to buy me a packet of chocolate. Taking me to land of Mickey mouse(USA). Driving me to school, taking me on the poney ride at Bandstand, or to the train garden. Oh how could I forget the museum of my childhood photographs and reams of projector films that Dadaji had created which will help me preserve those wonderful memories through time.

Even today, by the grace of god this bond still exists. Interestingly, Dadaji`s birthday falls on 25 Dec, and he truly is my real life Santa Clause.I do hope that Dadaji, Satish Shah makes his century in full good health.